Everyone does it, but most people keep their techniques a closely guarded secret.Here, for the first time, you have access to hundreds of men and women, candidly sharing their first-hand stories. newspaper: 'Usually punters are asking me all sorts of weird stuff to get them excited - instead he got turned on by wanting to know what TV I watched and what comedians I liked. He seemed really pleased by that.'He kept asking me questions about Jason - then announced from nowhere, "Would you like to f**k Jason Manford? I was amazed it was him.'He said: 'I have only myself to blame. We have had a serious sit-down about it and agreed that what we’ve got is worth fighting for. “Your primary partner will never be able to compare with the fantasy partner,” Hertlein says.“They will never win.” According to Young, people with low self-esteem, a distorted body image, an untreated sexual dysfunction or a prior sexual addiction are more at risk to develop addictions to cybersex or online pornography.If there is no physical contact or actual sex, is it still an affair?
“But the other partner often feels such an emotional betrayal that they are going through the same feelings as if their partner was having a real affair.” Online affairs can contribute to divorce and child custody fights as the involved partner becomes more enmeshed in the online relationship. Almost two-thirds of the participants in one study reported they had met and had sex with their Internet partners; only 44 percent of them reported using condoms.While men traditionally have been the more unfaithful sex, gender roles are reversing in some cases as more women experience cybersex.“I think there is this bias that women don’t cheat for sexual reasons at all,” Hertlein says.Young sees more women who are online cheaters, in part, she says, because women gravitate toward erotic chats and webcam sessions while men often are drawn to pornography.“The Internet is opening up these new ways of exploring your sexuality and that includes infidelity,” she says.