Herpes dating new hampshire
However, being with someone who did not share her HIV status proved 'intense' for Sarah.
'Andrew was very worried and clinical in his approach to sex.
The other option is to have protected sex then tell them afterwards, but that seems underhand.'Fortunately, however, there is now a breakthrough for women like Jessica.
New dating websites are springing up designed to give a choice to single people with STIs.
There was almost a sense of "It serves you right for sleeping round." There is still that double standard in society.'Christine Webber, a psychotherapist and relationships expert, explains.
'You can't, in a couple of generations, fly in the face of all the conditioning that has existed for thousands of years. It allows them to return to that time in their life when they could date without having to think about it.'Specialist dating websites can also eliminate the stress of worrying about infecting a partner during sex. I had maybe five or six boyfriends in my twenties and didn't always practise safe sex. When I was diagnosed it turned out I'd had it a long time.
Add to that the worry of having to tell a new partner that you have an incurable sexually transmitted infection and it can become almost inconceivable. 'We always used condoms, then one day he asked me if we could stop.
For all I know, if we had slept together, I might have woken up and found my wallet and car keys missing." I was distraught and broken-hearted.'Jessica's experience is not unusual.
It was like having leprosy.'Now 51, Jessica is single again, having spent 15 years dating with herpes.Until the pill in the 1960s, most women strenuously avoided having sex outside marriage because it had dire economic, career and relationship consequences, and in many ways those old stereotypes still exist today.'Caygill says her website aims to remove those pressures. Otherwise, you can get stuck on "Oh, herpes - can I get it from your towel? Sarah, 33, a care worker from Oxfordshire, joined Date Positive after making the decision to date only men who shared her condition. As a result, I never knew who I had contracted it from.'Sarah broke off the relationship she was in as she tried to come to terms with her diagnosis.'After a while it started playing on my mind about meeting someone else. I was depressed enough as it was; I didn't know if I could handle other people's feelings towards my condition.'Eventually, three years after she was diagnosed, Sarah met Andrew through a friend.The idea is that, along with your favourite films and hair colour, you now also list your condition.By the time a potential date gets in contact, you can be sure he already knows about it.'We set up our site in September 2006, after recognising the issues that people were facing,' says Sheelagh Caygill from Gateshead, a co-founder of the first website for British people with STIs, Within hours of a small story appearing in a newspaper, the website went crazy.