Red flags for dating
There is a lot of nuance to consider when meeting someone new and (despite the slightly tongue-in-cheek list above) it’s not really easy to categorize or generalize.Just be alert to the subtle or not-so-subtle indicators.When we meet a potential love interest in person, we’re taught to look for certain red flags—like being rude to the waiter, calling incessantly or not at all, or claiming that his favorite book is The Da Vinci Code.
It is always kinder to say, “Nice to meet you and good luck in your search,” than to string things out and have to break it off after a few more dates.
Yes, but this is another boundary issue—a very literal physical boundary is being “casually” and “completely unintentionally” breached. It’s is either 100% calculated or it’s this person’s everyday MO—either way it indicates a general lack of respect for boundaries. When you get twenty minutes into your first date and realize you already have a list of rules you are expected to either adhere to or remember—it can be stressful. This person will not actually resemble a blob but will behave like one.
I’ve heard of a rule-setter who clarified how long before her date could expect a kiss, an invitation to dinner, and an overnight before the first cup of coffee was cool enough to drink. ” it may be a warning that you have met a needy soul. You don’t converse with the blob, you interview, and may get only one-word answers.
But believe me, there are some very good words to describe a terrific first date, from “he made me laugh” to “she really understood me.”When it’s not so good, it may be “just a feeling” too—or the lack thereof.
But there are some clear first date snafus that warrant NMD (no more dates). head back to your online connections and try again….♥ Yesyesyesser.