Taking it slow when dating
Both of us have never been married and have no kids. We live about 50 miles away but decided that is no issue. He is always telling me how much he likes me, I’m a sweetheart, how much fun he has with me, he feels so comfortable with me and how our sexual chemistry is just awesome.
He said he wants to take it slow and really get to know me and- much to my dismay- he has gone on dates with other women.
Do you want to date casually during the time that he’s dating casually or did you say that to establish a fair playing field without intending to act on it?
I would say get clear on those questions before making a decision.
Understand that in a relationship you will be influenced and you will "lose" part of yourself.
If you gain more than you "give up" then it's probably safe to proceed. Do some work to understand your strengths and weaknesses.
You may actually have great values and make wonderful decisions in every other area of your life.
Savor the beginning so that you can drift slowly, but purposefully, into the middle. Join my upcoming webinar workshop on Conscious Dating: Relationship Success Training for Singles.
In the end, the guy realized that he was far more fulfilled with this woman than any other woman he had been seeing.
The woman was seeing another man as well at that time, but that guy couldn’t handle the idea of her being casually in a relationship with him so he broke it off.
One month in, I asked him what he thought about being exclusive.
(We had sex on the first date, BTW, don’t know if that would make a huge difference.) We spend every weekend together and usually one night during the week and he calls or texts me everyday just to say hi.